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I guess I need to come in here and add soon, huh?

Love, Lust & Infatuation

I am sure everyone has heard of the saying, "There is a such thing as Love at first sight". Well I am here to tell you that is so WRONG ! I will even go far enough to give you an example.

Brooke* a close friend [ something like a sister ] of mine is dating Shawn*. They met blindly through myself, and Shawn's* brother [ who were talking at the time ]. Brooke* and Shawn* click after the first 3-hour long conversation they have on the phone. About three days later Brooke* calls me up and tells me that she has fallen head-over-heels madly inlove with Shawn*.

Now don't get me wrong, I have never been one to say anything wrong about love, but C'mon now...after just three days? Just as much as I am a firm believer in Love, I am also a firm believer in Lust and Infatuation. Brooke* asked me not to get mad, and fuss at her. I didn't. How could I? Her Love life is NOT my business. I tend to not be interested in the idiotic [ and I say this out of pure love ] fallings in and out's of love Brooke* encounters. Every few months or so Brooke* finds a new victim to trap in her "Love" net. But, I digress...

I hate to creep into someones business, but I did go as far as to ask Brooke* how she knew she loved Shawn*. After sitting quietly on the phone for about a minute, the only answer she could conjure up was, "I just do". Just as quick as G.W. Bush declared war on Iraq, a light went off in my head alerting that Brooke* did not indeed love Shawn*. She was in Lust with him, and even Infatuated with the thought of Love.

How could you truly Love someone after just talking to them on the phone for three days? Anyone can seem like the perfect catch over the phone. You really want to test your Love for someone?

• Get them outside of their element.
• Go on a few dates, and pay close attention to how they treat you in public.
• Do they respect you enough to keep their hands off of you long enough to learn your last name?
• When you ask them a question, do they just give you one worded answers, or do they go in depth?

All I am trying to say is Love takes time. I could give a fuck what anyone says. You have to learn about and accept someones past to be inlove with them. You have to be okay with realizing what you see on the outside doesn't always match the inside. Like Be` Carter said, "...accept me Flaws and All". If you find out that later on down the line, your "Shawn*" keeps on popping up with a new Flaw almost everyday, your taking a risk at Love was all in vain.
Bless Brooke's* heart...and guard Shawn's* because you never know when I might be walking with a knife, and trip and stab him in it.
Just kidding...Or am I? [ No, really I am. I don't want anyone reading this, and locking my ass up. I have a daughter, I'm in college, and frankly I think i'm too sexy for big people's jail. Someone might try to take IT from me ].


* Names in this blog have been changed to ensure that those referred to will remain anonymous.